Posts Tagged ‘women and wealth’

Letting Life Flow Through You

Eckhart Tolle, one of my favorite buddhas, reminds us that there are no PROBLEMS… only SITUATIONS.

We humans are so attuned to “what’s wrong” and “what needs to be fixed” that we forget we can choose a different perspective. Easy to see a lack of money as a problem. Easy to see a flat tire as a problem. Easy to see a plummeting economy as a problem.

But when we reframe  the “problem” into a “situation”, right action is called in naturally and we’re back in the natural flow of life.

What financial “problem” can you change into a “situation” today? And what action is being called for?

Let me know!

“Getting Real With Your Money” often requires a daily integrity practice. It’s so easy ~ and not uncommon ~ to reward yourself “just a little” for being such a good girl with your money! I call this “The Fudge Factor”. You “fudge” just a little thinking it won’t make a big difference and, really, who’s gonna know?

A Little Liquid Fudge Anyone?

A Little Liquid Fudge Anyone?

Sometimes, after days of conscious spending and taking care of my financial affairs with attention and conviction, I deem myself worthy of a gift. This morning it was a latte. My rationale: I’ve been SO responsible lately that spending a little money on myself is deserved and won’t break the bank.

Early in the “Get Real” program, these so-called rewards (or pieces of fudge) can easily lead us back into familiar patterns of unconscious spending, feeling ashamed, and avoiding the issue ~ sending us right back into the territory of “hoping it will all work out”.

Integrity is about keeping your word. And in matters of our money, it’s all about keeping your word with yourself. Money has only everything to do with YOU and it’s YOU you have to answer to.

For me, it’s a slippery slope. This morning’s latte isn’t that big of a deal but I notice that I’ve been thinking about it. A lot. Why? Because I have an agreement with myself to limit “fudge” from my spending in order to pay off just a little more of my credit card bill. Spending $2.75 on a delicious drink leaves me with $2.75 less to pay down my balance. One piece of fudge won’t likely break the bank but, if it sets me off on a pattern of spending, it just might break my spirit.

This is not about being worthy or deserving of something. By “Getting Real With Money” I am no longer internally codependent. I am a grown woman who makes choices based on what I want in my financial life ~ no more, no less. No emotional baggage or undercurrent, just another choice to restore my self integrity.

To fudge or not to fudge?

What’s your fudge factor?

 

If you could see yourself six months from now, where do you think you’ll be? 

Flash Forward: a smart, engaging, FUN ABC  television series! The event that throws us into action: the whole world blacks out for two minutes and 17 seconds but, instead of losing total consciousness, they flash forward to a day six months into the future and get a vision of what’s going on in their lives. From there, we’re on an action-packed journey into peoples’ lives and an investigation about the strange phenomena. But let’s come back to personal relevance!

I want you to take a moment and dream into your future. 

Where do you want to be? And what can you do today to step into making that a reality? This is not an exercise in goals but in desire, in wanting, in dreaming, and believing. Six months will pass regardless of whether or not you take the time to look ahead but wouldn’t it be great to come out of that six months with something you really want for yourself?

Allow yourself to want something without wondering how it could happen. Have some fun with this. Make it up, play with it and see what opens up for you. Stretch beyond the confines of your life today and put yourself into a future you would love! Maybe very little would be different, maybe it would be total transformation. 

Go ahead. Dream into your best life ~ it may be only six months away!

In any economy, it’s a known fact that there are people who do unscrupulous activities to make money illegally by using other’s people identities. Knowing this, you can take some very basic precautions to minimize your risk for having your identity stolen and used against you.

Here there are…

1. Monitor Your Credit.

Most consumers aren’t even aware that their identities have been stolen…until they go to use their debit cards or other accounts and they are empty or they get a call from a credit card company asking if strange charges are theirs. All of a sudden you realize something is dreadfully wrong and you can spend months or years fixing what the impostor has done to your name, your credit, your buying reputation, etc. 

You can request a free credit file disclosure, also known as a credit report, once every 12 months at www.annualcreditreport.com.  There are other sites offering free credit scores and reports but quite often they are tied to a monthly charge to monitor your report. You don’t need this! Just get your free report from the website above and pay attention to the details.

2. Don’t give out your personal information without a good reason.

Make sure the person who is requesting personal information from you (name, address, zip, phone, etc.) is a reputable person and the reason they want the information is valid.

3. Be careful with your mail.

Using an unsecure mailbox out in the open is a big no-no when it comes to mailing important documents of any kind. Take mail to an official mailbox if you have to and make sure you collect the mail as quickly as possible each day. Another option is to get a PO Box and pick up your mail every 2 or 3 days. 

If you’re going on vacation, put a hold on your mail or have a neighbor or the house-sitter bring it in each day. 

4. Watch what goes into your trash!

Thieves who live on stolen identities gather their information from trash, as well as mail, forms they copy in offices and a lot of other sources. Rule of thumb: shred all documents containing numbers!

5. Only give out your social security number when you absolutely have to!

Your Social Security Number is the single, most prized find for identity thieves! Make sure you protect yours.

Banks may need them to start account. Employers need them to make sure you’re legal and your taxes are allocated correctly. However, you know those medical forms you fill out when you have a new doctor or dentist? They ask for your social security number? Don’t give it to them…you don’t have to. 

Don’t give it out over the phone (giving the last 4 digits is fine…no one can track anything from the last 4), put it in the mail, etc. Just keep it to yourself.

And your social security card should NOT be in your wallet. If it is, get it out right now and put it in a safe! My financial guy taught me this one!

6. Pay attention to billing cycles of credit cards.

Know when your bills usually arrive (make them paperless if you work on the web effectively) and when your billing cycles land so that you know if something goes missing. Call your credit card companies if a bill doesn’t show up on time or a check you send is lost in the mail. Looking at past statements can help you set up a calendar so you know what arrives when.

7. Be cautious when ordering product on the internet.

When you decide to order a product or service online, look for the symbol (a lock) on the bottom right-hand corner of the browser window you are using. If you don’t see it, call the merchant and place the order over the phone. It’s worth the extra few minutes to make sure your information is safe and secure.

8. Delete your personal information from all old computers you’re not using or sell.

How often do we sell or donate old computers without thinking about what personal information may be on that old useless hard drive? It only takes once in the hands of the wrong person to give donating a bad taste in your mouth.

Get in and delete all information, reformat the hard drive if you can and if all else fails, remove the hard drive (they are cheap now) and have a computer professional help you wipe the drive clean. Again, isn’t it worth a few dollars to hire someone to help you keep your personal financial life safe? 

Bottom line, it’s up to you to be diligent with your personal information. Having your identity stolen and used against you is one of the most painful and time-consuming events to recover from. Do whatever you can to prevent it!

Please teach your entire family these common sense steps to protecting their identity!