Do it for Love!

More often than not, our money situation dictates how much space we have for love.

Ever notice that, when you have enough money in the bank and all your bills are paid, you are happy and available for connection? On the flip side, when we have unmet financial obligations, we are likely to feel tight, uneasy, irritated, distracted ~ trapped in a very small world. When the walls start closing in, we have little time or attention for anything outside that which we absolutely need. We are in survival mode. Fight or flight.

I’m here to tell you ~ by facing your finances and taking care of your bottom line, you’ll have more space for love in your life. Guaranteed.

Any time you feel good about money, you feel good about the rest of your life too! Don’t even TRY to argue out of this one. And don’t take my word for it, either, just look at your own situation.

Here’s the thing: when we ignore, avoid, hide, or pretend when it comes to money, we are walking around IN THAT ENERGY no matter how small the integrity infraction may be. It seeps into other aspects of our lives and takes away from the WHOLE of who we are. Fine if you don’t mind being only partially available for fun, opportunity, and connection. But I want more for myself AND for you!

This is why I tell my clients to start their days by looking in the mirror AND at their bank accounts. It’s a metaphorical structure to make sure you’re ALL THERE before starting your day. Brush your hair, pinch your cheeks, and take care of one thing that will have you feel good about your money.

Make that charitable contribution, put $10 in your “play” account, choose not to buy your super-sized chai latte this morning, pack a lunch, have that conversation with your husband, research something you’ve been wondering about… it doesn’t take a big transformation to make a difference. It’s really about taking one little step!

When you’ve given yourself the gift of looking in the financial mirror, you give the world the gift of your presence. You show up available for YOUR life and all that’s possible. What else are you here for? And what are you waiting for?

Wait ~ don’t answer that… just look in the mirror AND at your bank account. Now, do that one thing you can do today. Just that one. And let me know how you feel!

In years past I’ve allowed myself a good amount of cynicism around the so-called “Hallmark” holidays. Mother’s Day is one of the “big” ones.

When I became a mom, I also became righteous in my stance against receiving chocolates, flowers, and especially a brunch that cost more on that day than any other day. I refused to let the trance of “buying things to prove love” penetrate my household. After all, having a child was more than enough for me. Well, I just got real.

I looked in the metaphorical mirror this morning and saw that, underneath my cynical exterior, was a thread of unworthiness. An age-old story that I don’t deserve that kind of special attention, that kind of extravagant spending. Oh sure, we can all rally behind the shared truth that material things do not equal appreciation and love, but it’s just that kind of covert belief that gets in the way of being available for abundance. There’s an indiscriminate energy in there that keeps broadcasting the message “more is not welcome here”.

Well, I think it’s time to give up that story and let the celebration begin. Time to let those who love me make their own choices about how they want to express their appreciation. Time for me to open my heart and mind and accept all that comes my way, be it on Mother’s Day or any other day.

Alison Armstrong told me that a true Queen knows how to receive. Receive love, gifts, time, money, compliments… all of it.

So, to all you Queen-moms out there ~ let it all in! With a grace-filled “thank you!”

Happy Mother’s Day! (especially to you, Mom!)

Happy Mother’s Day to all women…for you give birth on a daily basis to new ideas, new ways of thinking, new ways of being, new relationships, new possibilities and new opportunities for yourself and everyone you touch.

Today I invite you to do Mother’s Day differently. Don’t go out and spend money you don’t have. Don’t go out and eat food that you know is unhealthy for you. Don’t do anything out of guilt because the kids want to do something for you.

Take care of yourself today and all days because if you don’t, the birthing will cease and the lack of creativity in your being doesn’t serve you so that you can serve others. And isn’t that one of the things that gives us the most pleasure?

Happy Mother’s Day to you all!

And, if you want to do something for your financial security, go look at Creative Wealth for Women and Celebrating Women and Wealth. Two programs designed to teach women in a creative, nurturing environment with other women looking for powerful education, support and plenty of dark chocolate. Oh, and did I mention fun!